Step into power, step into pyjamas
Comics, Dating, LifeI don’t know exactly when or how I stopped being insecure about how I look. It’s not that I learned to love my body and see all its flaws as beautiful. They’re not beautiful,...
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Blame the women, why don’t you
Dating, Life, ParentingI’m angry and sad about Grace Millane, and I’ve been thinking a lot about the rhetoric that inevitably emerges every time a woman is hurt: that she somehow brought it on herself. And I...
Chewing on used serviettes
Dating, Humour, LifeThis is how much I like butter. If you said, “would you rather give up butter for the rest of your life, or lose a toe?” I would say “you’re no friend of mine,”...
On celibacy, fantasy, Jane the Virgin, feminism, and not dating
Dating, LifeObsessively binge watching Jane the Virgin coincided with – and perhaps influenced – my decision to stop dating and stop having sex. Not dating when you are romantically-lonely is uncomfortable and dissonant. It means...
A poem for men on dating apps, men on the street, men in bars
Dating, PoetryI am not your hun. I am not your babe precious sexy what you up to now wet dream. You can’t fool me into thinking we are intimate. I don’t know who you are...
The Worst Online Dating Opener I’ve Ever Received
Dating, HumourI received the following message last night. – Never have I wanted juice less. – I don’t know why killing rats is a redeeming feature. – Does this strategy ever work for getting dates?...
The monsoon and the shudder
Dating, Life, PoetryWhen your heart is a desert the smallest of loves can feel like a monsoon. You were not the avalanche or the earthquake you were not the biggest of loves but you were the...
What To Wear When Meeting Your Ex
Dating, HumourMeeting your ex in person after a breakup can be a confusing time, regardless of how it ended or at what point in the recovery process you’re at. Sometimes you might bump into them...
The things I think I should do when I feel unworthy
Comics, Dating, LifeNot too long ago I got dumped, and after I’d cried, and told all my friends; after the shock started to fade (although I couldn’t breathe properly for days); after all that I thought...
Octopuses, poetry, whiskey, and algorithms
Dating, HumourLook, even if I got nothing else out of my dating experiences, this story would almost make it all worth it. It starts like most of my dating stories, with matching on Tinder. We’ll...
Here’s what happens when you find out I’m a mother
Dating, ParentingApparently this is what happens when you become a mother: This is hard for most mothers, I think, when our complex identities become overshadowed by this one role. But it’s particularly challenging when you’re...