Blame the women, why don’t you
Dating, Life, ParentingI’m angry and sad about Grace Millane, and I’ve been thinking a lot about the rhetoric that inevitably emerges every time a woman is hurt: that she somehow brought it on herself. And I...
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Chewing on used serviettes
Dating, Humour, LifeThis is how much I like butter. If you said, “would you rather give up butter for the rest of your life, or lose a toe?” I would say “you’re no friend of mine,”...
On celibacy, fantasy, Jane the Virgin, feminism, and not dating
Dating, LifeObsessively binge watching Jane the Virgin coincided with – and perhaps influenced – my decision to stop dating and stop having sex. Not dating when you are romantically-lonely is uncomfortable and dissonant. It means...
The Worst Online Dating Opener I’ve Ever Received
Dating, HumourI received the following message last night. – Never have I wanted juice less. – I don’t know why killing rats is a redeeming feature. – Does this strategy ever work for getting dates?...
The monsoon and the shudder
Dating, Life, PoetryWhen your heart is a desert the smallest of loves can feel like a monsoon. You were not the avalanche or the earthquake you were not the biggest of loves but you were the...